what to do if you really want a dog but cant have one
Gorgeous Pug Puppy
I want a dog!
Recently, I've found it increasingly hard resist the urge to get a dog. I don't remember watching the new BBC TV series 'Cull the right puppy for you' has helped! Every week, we sit on the sofa 'ahhing' and 'cooing' over the endless footage of adorable dogs and puppies. It always leaves me feeling a flake envious as all the same some other family unit chooses a puppy to make their life complete.
We all love the idea of dogs in our family unit and our girls are desperate for one, but every fourth dimension the field of study comes upward, we debate it, we consider it, and we shelve information technology again.
Concluding year, I finally decided to leave my career as a pharmacist. When I told the kids near it, Emily didn't miss a shell, 'If you lot've left work, tin can we accept a puppy?'
So, here I am again, weighing upwardly the pros and cons of dog ownership.
Doggy yes?
I dearest dogs!
Canis familiaris lover or cat lover?
I'm not a fan of cats. I think that's why they ever come and leap on my genu and pester me when I visit people who accept them. I'm really a scrap scared of them. Perhaps it'south because I had a bad true cat experience when I was niggling: a cat lashed out and scratched me when I tried to stroke information technology.
Emily is allergic to cats anyhow. Her reaction to them has gotten worse over time. The most contempo reaction didn't even involve much contact with a true cat but concluded with a trip to the Emergency Department when her eyes puffed up and she started to complain that her throat felt tight! No cats for us then…What a shame!
Now, before I get lots of complaints from cat lovers, let me say for the record: I am sure there are many lovely cats out at that place that bring pleasure to their owners. Me? I only don't recollect cats put enough effort into the relationship. It's all a chip 1-sided. You love them, feed them, give them shelter, stroke them, play with them, buy them trivial bells and scratching posts simply somehow it never seems good enough. They look at you as if to say, 'Actually? Is that the all-time yous can do?'*
I need a pet that 'needs me'. Cats e'er give me the impression that they tin can get along just fine without their owners: equally if they are only tolerating them because they requite them a bowl of cat food every at present and once more.
Dogs are so different to cats. I love dogs considering they demand me and love me and they give something back! I know y'all aren't supposed to give to receive merely it's nevertheless nice to be appreciated, isn't it?
Dogs are lamentable to encounter you lot go and delighted when y'all return. They like attention. They're affectionate, loyal and loving. They're 'proper' companions. That'due south what I desire. I want a pet I tin love and they dearest me back. In my imagination, my canis familiaris will be well trained and loving, volition spin effectually in circles when I go far abode and should I ever autumn into a deep pit or be kidnapped by fugitives, my dog volition run miles and miles to fetch help.
*At that place is an exception to my 'not a fan of cats' opinion. I was very fond of 'Tizzie', my friends Alex and Amanda's cat who died recently. She was more than similar a soft, pudgy, furry cushion that just saturday on my knee whilst I stroked her…Very therapeutic.
Nosotros grew upwards with dogs.
We had ii gilded Cocker Spaniels chosen Bess and Beauty when we were growing up. I can notwithstanding recall when dad bought them domicile: Bess first, and Beauty a little while subsequently.
Our Golden Cocker Spaniel, Bess. Check out the Yorkstone fireplace and the swirly leafage rug.
Bess was a temperamental pedigree from a long line of show dogs. Dazzler was named ironically, existence the runt of a bulk-standard spaniel litter with ears that were style too long. I'm certain they wouldn't even let her through the front end door at Crufts. She couldn't even sit down properly when she was a puppy. Her lilliputian back legs stuck out in front of her. Dazzler may not have been a 'stunner', only she had the most beautiful temperament, (different grumpy show canis familiaris Bess). She was patient, loving, and never, always snapped or growled at anyone: no matter how rough and tumble we were when we were kids.
I loved those dogs. Sadly, they died while I was away at university and the house never seemed the same without them. For months later they passed away, we were closing doors to stop them 'getting out,' or going to refill their water basin before realizing there was no longer a water bowl to fill.
I call back if you have grown upwardly with dogs, it'due south very difficult to become them out of your organization. You always feel like there is something 'missing.'
Dogs are good for your health and wellbeing.
Weimaraner
At that place's tonnes of scientific evidence that having a dog can improve your mental health. They offer companionship to people on their own and stroking a canis familiaris has been shown to reduce feet and stress.
Particularly trained dogs are used to help children with autism and in that location is show that dogs can detect whether people take serious illnesses and even sure cancers.
Dogs can besides help you to keep fit. We would certainly practise more than if we had a canis familiaris to walk.
The kids are desperate for a canis familiaris.
Emily loves walking our neighbour'southward canis familiaris, Dexter.
Emily has been saving her pocket coin and has started a 'dog' fund. She's also started walking the neighbour's dog and even asked them if they could 'depict upwardly a dog walking schedule.' The only affair is, she isn't erstwhile enough to walk them past herself then she picks the nigh inopportune moments to ask me to have her!
We've tried the whole 'dog substitute' idea by getting two republic of guinea pigs, but it simply isn't the same.
At that place are dogs everywhere.
Our favourite puppy, Reggie the Cockerlier (Cocker Spaniel and Cavalier King Charles cross).
Everybody seems to exist getting a dog or puppy at the moment. Every time we turn up at the schoolhouse gate, there's all the same another puppy tied up outside. It'due south like being an alcoholic who has been locked in a brewery: seeing all of these lovely pups every day and trying not to succumb to the temptation.
My neighbours bought a puppy a few months agone and another neighbor brought i home this week. There'south no escape. Every time another person gets one I go through the aforementioned 'Doggy Yes, Doggy No?' statement in my head. It'due south becoming harder and harder to resist the urge. I even went as far as asking for the details of a breeder from 1 of the dog owners (don't tell Richard and the kids. I didn't really arrive contact).
I've done my research.
I may non have a domestic dog, but I've certainly researched it extensively, (This admission will not come as a surprise to those who know me well).
- I've read books about dog breeds and training dogs.
- I've watched programmes almost dogs, dog behavior and domestic dog training. Whether it's Paul O'Grady showing u.s.a. the wonderful dogs at Battersea Dogs Domicile on 'For the beloved of Dogs' or Kate Humble helping families to choose their perfect puppy.
- I've trawled through website later website in the quest for information on the perfect breed. I've searched for reputable domestic dog breeders and browsed the 'dogs needing a home' pages of rescue centres. I've filled out online forms to notice which breeds would be most suited to joining our family.
- I've asked my friends who have dogs about their experiences. I keep hoping they will say 'It's awful! I wish I'd never got a dog.' But they don't! They keep telling me how wonderful it is and how it's enhanced their lives and how the kids love having a dog.
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I've already got a list of dog breeds and names!
Y'all may know by at present that I'k a listaholic (meet here), so information technology should come as no surprise that I have a 'Dog list.' In fact, I've had a shortlist of breeds in my head for years. I've tweaked information technology and honed information technology over time. At that place take been many 'movers and shakers' in terms of the breeds in my top five. A few designer breeds take popped into the top v in recent years…Yep, I've had a hypothetical canis familiaris list on the go for ages!
I rang my sis a while back (when I was still working) and we had a chat nearly dogs. My sis is fabled and knows me very, very, well as you will see from the conversation nosotros had…Or how I remember our conversation, (it may have been slightly embellished but is based on a true story)
(This is for you, Emma at Islandliving365, because I love, love, dear your dialogue posts!)
Me: I really want a dog!
Sister: Me likewise!
Me: I miss having a dog and the kids are breaking down my 'information technology's non practical to have a dog,' defenses.
Sister: I know what you lot hateful.
Me: I even rang dad and told him he needed to get a dog and gave him a listing of our requirements. Of course, we'd look after information technology when the kids are on holiday.
Sis: Ha! What did he say to that?
Me: To exist honest, he didn't seem overly cracking.
Sister: Hmmm.
Me: I keep trying to talk myself out of it considering I'one thousand working and we haven't got family nearby to look subsequently him when nosotros are away and I don't want 'Rizzoli' to become in kennels and go kennel cough and die, or anything.
Sister: Rizzoli?
Me: Ermmm, yes.
Sister: You've chosen the proper noun of your hypothetical dog?
Me: [sheepishly] Maybe.
Sis: [chuckling]
Me: Hey!
Sister: Sorry, go on.
Me: I've erm, done some enquiry.
Sister: I'one thousand sure you have…
Me: Ruth!
Sis: So-rry!
Me: [quietly] I've made a list.
Sister: No surprise there then!
Me: I'm serious.
Sister: Oh, I know you lot are.
Me: [ignoring the sarcasm]. It'southward a hypothetical dog list…Of my favourite breeds of dog and favourite dog names.
Sister: *Snorts* (in a very ladylike fashion, plain. She may read this).
Me: Not helping!
Sister: [silent]
Me: Are you still there?
Sister: [Lets out a breath]…Me and Andy take got a hypothetical dog list too.
Me: Wait! You have?!! Why didn't yous tell me?
Sister: Because…
Me: Considering why?! I thought I was going through the 'need a dog' thing on my own.
Sister: Nosotros really want a dog also but we haven't got a garden and…
Me: [interrupting] What breeds take you lot got on your listing?
Sister: I'one thousand not telling you.
Me: What do you mean, you're not telling me?!
Sister: Because you'll re-create me!
Me: Copy you lot?! What? Are w e six or something?!
Sister: No, but…
Me: Are y'all serious?
Sister: Weeeeeeeeell…
Me: Okay, Okay. How's about I tell you my list first and then you tell me yours?
Sister: [sighs]
Me: [huffs]
Sis: Oookkkkaayyyy.
Me: Shieshk! Okay, [excitedly] First on my list is a Cocker Spaniel. Not a solid colour because they can suffer from 'rage' and Bess was golden and grumpy and the multi-coloured ones have meliorate natures. I actually wanted a Golden Retriever but I am being very sensible and ruling out big dogs.
Black and White Cocker Spaniel.
Sis: Right. Next?
Me: A 'Cavapoo', which is a cross betwixt a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel and a Poodle. Cavapoos have the lovely temperament of a Cavalier and don't shed too much because of the 'poo' office.
Sis: [chuckling] Next?
Me: 3rd on my list is a Shih-Tzu considering they are cute and small and fluffy and come in lots of different colours.
Sis: They are cute.
Shih-tzu puppy
Me: Quaternary is the Miniature Schnauzer considering they have bully temperaments and they are one of the simply breeds the Asthma Social club recommends as they don't unremarkably cause allergies.
Miniature Schnauzer puppy.
Sister: 5th?
Me: Well, Emily wants a Pug. But, I dunno. They tin have breathing difficulties and someone told me that if you stroke their head too difficult their optics might pop out and you lot know how squeamish I am about optics!
Sister: [Worriedly] Their eyes can't pop out can they?
Me: Well. I am just not prepared to accept the risk. Anyway, I've told you my list, then tell me yours!
Sis: Is that all of them and then? I idea you lot said a while dorsum that you liked miniature dachshunds?
Me: Richard want s a miniature dachshund because he lik es the thought of having a 'comedy domestic dog.' I'm not keen. They have terrible back bug and accept trouble with stairs and deep snow…Maybe if we lived in a bungalow…I did toy with the thought of a Bichon Frise Shih-tzu cross because the frizzy role means they won't shed lots of dog pilus, apparently.
Black and Tan Dachshund that someone cruelly left half mode upwardly a flying of steps.
Sis: Bichon Frise and Shih-Tzu cross?
Me: Yeah. I think the breeders call them Shih-chons or Shu-chons or something…I'd been saying 'Shit-Freeze' for weeks!
Sister: [choking on tea] Jaaannnnne!
Me: Or maybe I could take a cross between a Bull dog and a Shih-tzu! Then I'd accept a Balderdash…
Sister: [interrupting] Okay, okay, I'll tell you my list…
I'll have to cease there so nobody copies my sister's hypothetical dog list, but you get the thought.
I could keep virtually the reasons why I want a dog, but this postal service is already way longer than I anticipated!
Doggy No?
Then, after working myself upwardly into a frenzy once again nearly having a dog, I demand to look at the cold hard facts (Boo!). These are the reasons why I oasis't put a deposit down on whatsoever of the absolutely gorgeous puppies I have viewed online for years…
Nosotros don't take family living nearby.
We don't actually want to go out our dog in a kennel.
Although I'm working from abode at the moment, we don't have anyone to get out the domestic dog with when we become away on vacation. As I said, I'd rather not leave them in a kennel. Richard'due south mum is in Derbyshire and my mum and dad are in the north-east. My sis is in Manchester and is busy plenty with two small children.
I know we tin can take them on holiday in the caravan and some cottages and hotels are dog friendly, simply it's withal trickier than not having a canis familiaris.
We also visit friends and family some weekends and it isn't e'er possible to have a dog.
Dogs are expensive.
Just as the Tv program showed, even small dogs tin cost over £2,000 per twelvemonth when you include insurance, food, toys, bedding, kennel fees etc. That'south a lot of money when I accept just left my job.
Dogs tie you lot down.
Yous can't leave dogs for hours on cease. You lot can't merely exit for the day and leave the dog. Your life revolves effectually making sure you are dorsum to let them out and feed them. You can't be spontaneous and suddenly decide to go away for the weekend. We like having the freedom to come and go equally we delight and if we want to visit friends one weekend, we can just pack and go.
A dog is for life.
Some dogs can alive for xiv-15 years. Getting a dog isn't a decision you tin can take lightly or rush into: y'all are in information technology for the long-booty. The kids volition go out home at some indicate during that time (or at least I hope they do!). What about all of those Sandals All Inclusive Holidays me and Richard had planned to keep together? Just kidding, I don't want to remember well-nigh the kids leaving withal.
Doggy yes? Doggy no?
So there you have information technology: I want a dog only I can't take a dog. Or tin I?
Over to you lot.
Can you lot aid with our doggy dilemma? Tell me well-nigh your experiences. Give me some advice, for or against! As always, I would love to hear from you.
…And if you are a true cat lover, convince me that I accept got information technology all incorrect!
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